Read aloud #87:
“Nurture Shock”
by
Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman

It was my turn to choose our book to read aloud.

“Nurture Shock” is the one parenting book I’ve ever read cover to cover.
I first read it when it came out in 2009.
It made a quite an impression on me.
So much so, that now that my boys are mature enough,
I insisted we not not only read the book aloud,
but we also discuss the contents of each chapter.
I also used each chapter discussion to explain my interpretation of the topic
and
how it affected my decision making for our family.

Why was this so important to me?

The bottom line is this:
I want my kids to understand the decisions I make as their mom.
They’re getting bigger.
One is in high school and the other in middle school.
They are starting to question me and to push back on some of my rules.

I always tell my boys that they don’t have to agree with me.
But while they are still home, they need to respect me and to obey me.
At the same time,
I don’t want them to think I make up rules on a whim.
I want them to know there is rhyme and reason to my decisions.
I want them to understand how much thought and care has gone into raising them.
And to have some inkling of what they will need to think about when it is their turn to be parents.

There was a lot of information in this book.
Which in turn generated quite a bit of conversation.
My hope is that some of what we talked will stick with them.
Because in just a few short years,
They’ll be out on their own.
And when that moment comes,
I hope…
I hope…
they will understand my whys  
and
be agreement with me
and
grow up to be the men we are trying to raise.